Divorce can occur for a variety of reasons, including:

1. Communication Issues: Constant misunderstandings and lack of effective communication can lead to frustration and conflict.

2. Infidelity: Betrayal through cheating can destroy trust and intimacy in a relationship.

3. Financial Problems: Disagreements about money management or financial stress can strain a marriage.

4. Loss of Intimacy: A decline in emotional and physical intimacy can create feelings of disconnection.

So Why Do Men Cheat?

The number one reason men cheat is opportunity.

If he’s on a desert island, he won’t cheat.

If he’s surrounded by attractive, interested women every day...

at work,

at the gym,

on social media...

the temptation is constant.

What men often lack isn’t love or sex at home.

It’s boundaries.

They drift.

One DM,

one “innocent” drink,

one moment of boredom...

and they’re in.

How to Protect Yourself Financially in Divorce

Divorce is never just emotional...

it is financial.

The moment you separate, your financial security becomes vulnerable.

Whether you were the main earner,

the homemaker,

or somewhere in between,

here’s how to take control of your money and protect your future.

Don’t Just Hire the First Name You Find

Choosing the right solicitor can shape the course of your divorce...

legally, financially, and emotionally.

It's not just about credentials.

It's about trust, strategy, and alignment.

You need someone who understands the legal landscape, but also your priorities.

Here are the questions you must ask before instructing anyone.

Don’t be shy...

you’re hiring them, not the other way around.

Why Rebounds Can Seem Like a Lifeline

It might not be as bad as you think.

There’s an American study from Brumbaugh & Fraley (2015, Journal of Social and Personal Relationships) that found rebound relationships can actually help people recover from a breakup faster.

A new connection can boost self-esteem, reduce longing for the ex, and distract from pain.

That’s the theory.

How Much Will Your Divorce Really Cost?

When clients come to me after separation, they’re usually focused on one thing: the legal bill. They worry about solicitor’s fees, court costs, and what it’s going to take to get the divorce through. But the real cost of divorce isn’t on the invoice. It’s in the years of your life you won’t get back.

People often overlook are the other, less visible costs: the emotional toll, the time drain, and the sheer energy it takes.

Settle or Fight?

When you divorce, you’ve got two choices when it comes to the finances:

1. Reach an agreement.

2. Fight it out.

In England and Wales, around 80% of divorcing couples reach an agreement without going to court. But how they do it varies a lot.

How People Settle

Why Do People Get Divorced?

People often ask why marriages end.

The honest answer?

One of them goes off the other.

It’s not always dramatic. Sometimes it’s slow.

But it usually comes down to this: the feeling fades.

We don’t like to admit that.

We prefer complex explanations“We grew apart,” “Life got in the way,” “We had different goals.”

But really, it’s often just that you stop liking them. At least not the way you used to.

People spend years ruminating over this question:

Should I stay or should I go now?

How profound was that 80s hit?

Not good enough to stay?

Not bad enough to leave?

Feeling discontented?

Dissatisfied?

Maybe even resentful?

What to do?

This can be an unbearable source of anxiety and indecision.

Here's an easy way to work out what you need to do.

Imagine you suddenly received millions in a windfall. 

So much money that it made financial considerations in your circumstances irrelevant to the outcome of your potential separation.

Set your own bar.

For some that will be £5 million,

For others £500 million.  

What would you do with the money?

Worst thing about getting divorced?

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What is the worst thing about getting divorced?

Think about it.

Is it the money?

The change in lifestyle?

The loss of the family home?

Is it losing your ex-partner...

Even if the relationship was not working?

Is it the impact on your children?

Is it the sheer loneliness?

Is it the loss of your role in society...

7 Warning Signs to Watch For

When it comes to cheating in relationships, many people assume it’s about falling for someone new.

But often, the threat comes from the past...

particularly an ex.

Reconnecting with an ex can be a slippery slope, and many emotional affairs or full-blown infidelities start exactly there.

If you’ve been feeling like something’s “off” in your relationship...

even if you can’t quite put your finger on it...

you’re not alone.

Trusting your gut is important, especially when your intuition is picking up on subtle shifts in behavior.

Below are seven red flags that may indicate your partner is slipping back into contact with their ex.

While not every sign confirms infidelity, consistent patterns deserve your attention.

If your Divorce ends up in Court...

Everything you buy will be under the spotlight.

Plus everything you have bought for the last 12 months.

Are there things you don't want your ex...

or his/her legal team to know about?

Some people find this extremely irritating...

One of the things that it's important to come to terms with when you're going through a separation is that nobody else really cares.

People can show interest in what's going on.

Even gossip or be nosy.

It's like when you you first get married.

People are intrusive and ask when you are going to start a family.

When you divorce people ask for the details.

One of the things that it's important to come to terms with when you're going through a separation is that nobody else really cares.

People can show interest in what's going on.

Even gossip or be nosy.

It's like when you you first get married.

People are intrusive and ask when you are going to start a family.

When you divorce people ask for the details.

Why do so many people get divorced?

In my experience, both professionally and personally, it is because somebody wasn’t authentic.

So… the person that you married is not the person that you end up being married to now.

They put on an act.

They pretended to be someone they were not.

In the extreme this could be gold diggers or narcissists, or…

People who are so attracted to you that they pretend to be what they think you want…