When is Divorce a good thing?
Let me count the ways...
to misquote our famous bard Elizabeth Barrett Browning.
Personal Growth
Maybe you have been stuck in a rut for years.
Maybe you have been stagnant in a comfort zone of misery.
Maybe you lost yourself in the misery of an unhealthy existence.
Divorce may force you to re-evaluate.
Take stock of your life.
When is Divorce a bad thing?
Not every divorce is a mutual decision.
Some people are devastated at the loss of their previous life.
Some are shocked...
They never expected their partner would decide it was over.
The finality of divorce...
The forced change.
The loss...
All can have negative effects.
How long does it take to move on after Divorce?
It is an individual thing.
Some have already moved on and slip straight into a full on relationship with their lover.
Some never do.
There is a difference between healing and rushing to replace.
Psychology today states give it a year.
Are you on the Rebound?
It might not be as bad as you think.
According to this study...
Focusing on someone new relieved the anxiety of missing your ex.
Their longing for their ex was disrupted.
Maybe.
Or maybe this was just a side-effect of time playing out.
Coping with the Emotional Divorce
The emotional divorce is as real as the financial one.
And it can hit far worse.
Suddenly your life is out of control.
You are thrown off track.
If you are the one who wanted the divorce...
You still have to cope with loss...
Loss of your dreams...
Loss of your previous life...
Loss of your place in society.
Nobody cares about your divorce
One of the things that it's important to come to terms with when you're going through a separation is that nobody else really cares.
People can show interest in what's going on.
Even gossip or be nosy.
It's like when you you first get married.
People are intrusive and ask when you are going to start a family.
When you divorce people ask for the details.
Why you should get divorced
One of the things that it's important to come to terms with when you're going through a separation is that nobody else really cares.
People can show interest in what's going on.
Even gossip or be nosy.
It's like when you you first get married.
People are intrusive and ask when you are going to start a family.
When you divorce people ask for the details.
When to get divorced
Deciding whether or not to get a divorce is a deeply personal decision that requires careful consideration. There is no universal answer as to when it is the “right” time, as every relationship and situation is unique. However, here are some factors to consider:
Why do so many people get divorced?
Why do so many people get divorced?
In my experience, both professionally and personally, it is because somebody wasn’t authentic.
So… the person that you married is not the person that you end up being married to now.
They put on an act.
They pretended to be someone they were not.
In the extreme this could be gold diggers or narcissists, or…
People who are so attracted to you that they pretend to be what they think you want…