Divorce can occur for a variety of reasons, including:

1. Communication Issues: Constant misunderstandings and lack of effective communication can lead to frustration and conflict.

2. Infidelity: Betrayal through cheating can destroy trust and intimacy in a relationship.

3. Financial Problems: Disagreements about money management or financial stress can strain a marriage.

4. Loss of Intimacy: A decline in emotional and physical intimacy can create feelings of disconnection.

Why Rebounds Can Seem Like a Lifeline

It might not be as bad as you think.

There’s an American study from Brumbaugh & Fraley (2015, Journal of Social and Personal Relationships) that found rebound relationships can actually help people recover from a breakup faster.

A new connection can boost self-esteem, reduce longing for the ex, and distract from pain.

That’s the theory.

How Much Will Your Divorce Really Cost?

When clients come to me after separation, they’re usually focused on one thing: the legal bill. They worry about solicitor’s fees, court costs, and what it’s going to take to get the divorce through. But the real cost of divorce isn’t on the invoice. It’s in the years of your life you won’t get back.

People often overlook are the other, less visible costs: the emotional toll, the time drain, and the sheer energy it takes.

Settle or Fight?

When you divorce, you’ve got two choices when it comes to the finances:

1. Reach an agreement.

2. Fight it out.

In England and Wales, around 80% of divorcing couples reach an agreement without going to court. But how they do it varies a lot.

How People Settle

Why Do People Get Divorced?

People often ask why marriages end.

The honest answer?

One of them goes off the other.

It’s not always dramatic. Sometimes it’s slow.

But it usually comes down to this: the feeling fades.

We don’t like to admit that.

We prefer complex explanations“We grew apart,” “Life got in the way,” “We had different goals.”

But really, it’s often just that you stop liking them. At least not the way you used to.

Worst thing about getting divorced?

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What is the worst thing about getting divorced?

Think about it.

Is it the money?

The change in lifestyle?

The loss of the family home?

Is it losing your ex-partner...

Even if the relationship was not working?

Is it the impact on your children?

Is it the sheer loneliness?

Is it the loss of your role in society...

One of the things that it's important to come to terms with when you're going through a separation is that nobody else really cares.

People can show interest in what's going on.

Even gossip or be nosy.

It's like when you you first get married.

People are intrusive and ask when you are going to start a family.

When you divorce people ask for the details.

One of the things that it's important to come to terms with when you're going through a separation is that nobody else really cares.

People can show interest in what's going on.

Even gossip or be nosy.

It's like when you you first get married.

People are intrusive and ask when you are going to start a family.

When you divorce people ask for the details.

Why do so many people get divorced?

In my experience, both professionally and personally, it is because somebody wasn’t authentic.

So… the person that you married is not the person that you end up being married to now.

They put on an act.

They pretended to be someone they were not.

In the extreme this could be gold diggers or narcissists, or…

People who are so attracted to you that they pretend to be what they think you want…