Want a divorce? put some weight on.

I originally wrote this post on 23 December 2010.

It was prompted by a newspaper article but my life since, both professional and anecdotal confirms the message.

If you look at old videos or news reports of people in the street in the 50s, 60s, 70s, even 80s… they mainly look slim and smart.

What has changed?

Life has got easier with technology.

People buy a lot more clothes.

Why don’t they look better?

If people want their marriage to survive…

Maybe make an effort?

Be kind.

Be patient.

Dress nicely.

Women these days emphasise dressing for comfort.

People seem to buy clothes they can grow into.

Is it any surprise we no longer find our partners attractive?

Would you fancy you?

The Daily Mail article reads harshly:

Almost 42 per cent of men interviewed said they would be less attracted to their girlfriend if they gained half a stone in weight.

And five per cent even said they would consider ending the relationship altogether.

Would they even be able to print that now?

Would there be an outcry of sexism?

Would men in these ultra sensitive times even admit?

Here is my blog post:

Apparently men go off women who add girth… even if it is only half a stone as reported in the Daily Mail

Is that surprising? Look at how many beautiful women are married to less beautiful men.

No doubt there will be a follow up report saying that women go off men who lose their money.

Would that surprise you?

Some people marry for love.

Some people marry for companionship.

Some people marry for money.

Some people marry for looks.

Some people marry for their parents.

Some people marry for their children.

Some people marry for… add in your own story.

Why does the world pretend that everyone marries for love and then act surprised when someone bales out because the bargain they struck has been broken?

Whatever the reasons people marry, when they divorce it is painful and society needs to offer more support and guidance as opposed to judgement and condemnation.

Remember in every divorce there is usually one party who is forced down that road, who would like to remain married but who is rejected and hurt and then condemned as selfish and a quitter by the rest of society.

Marriages should have regular MOT’s like cars then perhaps more could be saved!!

Merry Christmas everybody!