Coping with the Emotional Divorce
The emotional divorce is as real as the financial one.
And it can hit far worse.
Suddenly your life is out of control.
You are thrown off track.
If you are the one who wanted the divorce...
You still have to cope with loss...
Loss of your dreams...
Loss of your previous life...
Loss of your place in society.
If you are the one being dragged to the divorce courts...
You are at least nine months behind your ex emotionally...
Their apparent indifference can make your pain far worse.
They probably mourned the relationship whilst they were still in it...
And detached a long time before you were even aware it was over.
How to cope with the Emotional Pain.
Rejection stings.
If you are not used to it...
It can hurt far worse.
Men become confident asking women out by getting lots of rejections.
If you ask 50 women for their number and 49 say no...
You are not so bothered as if you ask one woman...
She says no...
And you never ask another woman ever again.
The lesson here?
Ride through the rejection.
It's just one person and there are billions of others in this world...
Many who would probably be very happy to pair up with you.
Three steps to cope with the Pain of Rejection
Step One
Acknowledge your feelings.
Accept the grief and the loss.
Cry if you want to.
Just let the feelings flow.
This is a temporary emotional state...
Not a permanent way of living.
You will quickly get to the stage of thinking...
Okay..
I don't want to be sad anymore...
If you follow the next two steps.
Step Two
Practice self- compassion.
Forgive yourself.
No more ...
What ifs.
Cease with the regret.
Package all the things you did wrong into a folder called...
Learning from Past Mistakes.
And become a better person.
Step Three
Seek support.
From friends.
From family.
From a therapist.
Even your dog.
Reach out and embrace others.
Love comes in many forms.
Not just romantic love.
Truly love and appreciate those people who are in your life.
The good people.
Toss the toxic ones with your ex.
How to rebuild your life.
Focus on self-care activities.
Exercise.
Healthy eating.
Mindfulness.
Glow up.
Set realistic goals.
Achieve them.
Embrace new opportunities for personal growth.
Reconnect with your passions.
Healing takes time...
So be patient with yourself.
If you can't be patient do this:
Make a list of your ex's faults.
All of them.
You should get to at least 50.
Then read it.
Again and again.
Memorise it if necessary.
Guaranteed to help you get over someone.
In a year's time you will look back and be glad it is over.
Provided you use this as an opportunity to improve...
Yourself...
Your relationships...
And your life.
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