Why You Should Get Divorced
When is divorce a good thing?
There are many reasons.
Personal Growth
How so?
Maybe you've been stuck in a rut for years.
Maybe you've been stuck in a stagnant, comfort zone of misery.
Maybe you lost yourself in the sadness of an unhealthy existence.
Divorce can force you to re-evaluate.
To take stock of your life.
Change.
Improve.
Maybe even and here's the buzz phrase of the day...
Glow up.
It may help you to get to know yourself.
Understand who you are.
Embrace your faults.
Accept them at least and embrace your assets.
And you may even dive into a sense of self-awareness you never knew was possible.
Stress relief
Another major thing that divorce can bring is stress relief.
It can result in improved mental health.
Leaving a toxic, unhappy relationship where every day is scarred by conflict can relieve stress, anxiety and depression.
The relief that is felt is one of immense freedom.
It's like deflating an overinflated balloon before it pops.
And some people's balloon does pop.
And they end up having a nervous breakdown.
So divorce can literally improve your mental health.
Improved relationships
Divorce can result in improved relationships.
Now is the time when you truly find out who your friends are.
Some people are just around you because of what you can supply.
Or because of the social engagement with you as a couple.
Or they never really liked you and just tolerated you because of your ex.
When you get divorced these frenemies dump you.
Also some people choose to remain friends with your ex-spouse and they don't want to have divided loyalties.
Divorce helps you to realise what's important to you in relationships.
All relationships.
With your friends.
Your family.
Yourself.
And here's the exciting bit...
possibly a new partner.
Independence
Another thing that divorce brings is independence.
Because now you have to be self-reliant.
Never used a drill before?
Now is your opportunity.
Never cooked a meal?
Get on Google and dig out some of those recipes.
Never navigated?
This is a tough one, satnavs do help, but now is your chance to be able to find your way around.
And doing these things, that you previously left to your partner, and that wasn't a bad thing, in relationships people defer to the other's skills.
So if one person's good at budgeting they do the finances.
If another person's good at design they sort out what to buy for the house.
But when you divorce you have to do everything yourself and it can lead to a true sense of satisfaction.
I remember years ago there was a Dulux advert.
I used to love it.
I don't know why.
Probably because of the beautiful dog in it.
But at the end this man painted the outside of his house, a major project, and the headline just said...
I did that.
And there's a real sense of self-satisfaction.
And that's what you can have when you come through a divorce.
You can start to learn new skills and it can be scary but instead of resenting the additional load of responsibility embrace the independence.
You've got this.
You can manage on your own.
And how great does that feel?
The first taste for some of true self-reliance.
Some people even have a sense of invincibility.
And coming out of a toxic relationship, some state they now believe they can survive anything.
Because nothing could rock their world more.
Communication skills
Another skill that you acquire during divorce, which you probably didn't have before, is improved communication.
This is an unexpected side effect.
But you have to communicate better.
Your marriage probably fell apart because you didn't tell each other what your wants, needs and feelings were, in a manner that your partner could relate to, or was receptive of.
Nagging didn't work.
Shouting didn't work .
And sulking or stonewalling certainly didn't work.
But in a divorce these behaviours have to be set aside to obtain a resolution.
So you have to listen to your ex's point of view.
You're forced to negotiate and this develops a skill of communication that you can take forward in life to your future relationships both personal and professional.
Life's purpose
Divorce can help you to sit and properly assess your life goals.
What's the point of your life?
What do you want to achieve?
Maybe you put your dreams on hold for the sake of the marriage.
Or maybe you buried your dreams because your partner would not allow them.
Now you've got the time and the space to focus on what you truly want.
What are your personal goals and aspirations?
Now you can realise your dreams.
Dream big and move on to a more fulfilling life path.
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