Considering Separation?
This can be soo scary even to think about.
Maybe you put on a brave face...
Even with yourself.
So much denial.
You pretend to your friends you are okay.
Pretend to your family everything is fine.
Maybe even pretend to your partner things are good.
But...
Secretly...
Fed up?
Bored?
Lonely in your relationship?
Dislike your spouse?
Can't stand your partner?
Repulsed by their presence?
Annoyed by their every word?
Bored by their jokes?
Annoyed by their faults?
Hate their habits?
Fed up of their family?
Really tired of looking at them?
Feeling sad?
Lonely?
Depressed?
Need to do something?
Anything?
Read on...
What to do?
When it feels that your life is a mess...
It's time to do three things:
If you can't face it...
Just think abut doing it.
Probably less than a week will go by before you are ready to proceed.
Here goes...
1. Work out where you are.
This means truly get real with yourself.
Find a place where you can be still with your thoughts.
Maybe write things down.
Journalling has been shown to be effective.
Scientifically proven to make people feel better,
and get more of the results they want.
But...
If that is too much effort...
Maybe just sit in your car and think.
Walk your dog and ponder.
Or go to the pub and let your thoughts rise.
How do you really feel?
What is your life about?
List 10 things about your partner you like.
If that's impossible go straight to listing the things you don't like.
Lots of people just can't do this on their own.
This is when they start going for counselling.
If you are lucky enough to have a best friend you can talk this through with, whom you trust and who has your best interests at heart, then great.
But often friends have their own agenda...
A counsellor, who is neutral and professional usually works best for those who cannot process their thoughts alone.
Next...
2. Work out where you want to be.
This should feel great but often this is scary too.
Don't suppress your dreams.
If you would like to live in a different country... process the thought.
This is not about running away.
This is about working out what you truly want to do.
Sounds awful... but if your partner died would you still want to emigrate?
Dig deep into your wishes and feelings and uncover what you want your life to look like.
For some it's as simple as living alone and buying a dog.
For others it involves yachts and ...
What some would term a midlife crisis.
But is it?
Surely it's more of a crisis to stay miserable?
Only you can know you.
Only you can truly work out what you want and need , to be happy and fulfilled.
3. Work out how to get there.
This process can take 5 minutes...
Or 5 years...
It's up to you.
It is simple...
But not easy...
If you are ready to proceed...
Read on.