You suspect your wife is cheating.

You have noticed the shift.

Her language has changed.

Her habits are off.

Something in your gut says this is not right.

You are probably feeling confused,

angry,

and betrayed.

But before you act out of emotion...

You need to get smart.

You need to protect yourself...

Not just emotionally...

But legally and financially too.

As an ex-divorce solicitor...

I have seen how suspicion turns into war.

The goal now is to be calm,

clear,

and strategic.

Here is what you need to do.

What is a Consent Order?

This post was originally written and posted on my previous blog in August 2006.

Legal points are still valid.

This post received many views and was used by Google to define a Consent Order.

A Consent Order is the legal document by which financial matters are finalised on divorce.

Without this, you are vulnerable to your partner making a financial claim years later.

This can be soo scary even to think about.

Maybe you put on a brave face...

Even with yourself.

So much denial.

You pretend to your friends you are okay.

Pretend to your family everything is fine.

Maybe even pretend to your partner things are good.

But...

Secretly...

Fed up?

Bored?

Lonely in your relationship?

Dislike your spouse?

Can't stand your partner?

Repulsed by their presence?

Annoyed by their every word?

Bored by their jokes?

Annoyed by their faults?

Hate their habits?

Fed up of their family?

Really tired of looking at them?

Feeling sad?

Lonely?

Depressed?

Need to do something?

Don’t Just Hire the First Name You Find

Choosing the right solicitor can shape the course of your divorce...

legally, financially, and emotionally.

It's not just about credentials.

It's about trust, strategy, and alignment.

You need someone who understands the legal landscape, but also your priorities.

Here are the questions you must ask before instructing anyone.

Don’t be shy...

you’re hiring them, not the other way around.

How Much Will Your Divorce Really Cost?

When clients come to me after separation, they’re usually focused on one thing: the legal bill. They worry about solicitor’s fees, court costs, and what it’s going to take to get the divorce through. But the real cost of divorce isn’t on the invoice. It’s in the years of your life you won’t get back.

People often overlook are the other, less visible costs: the emotional toll, the time drain, and the sheer energy it takes.

People spend years ruminating over this question:

Should I stay or should I go now?

How profound was that 80s hit?

Not good enough to stay?

Not bad enough to leave?

Feeling discontented?

Dissatisfied?

Maybe even resentful?

What to do?

This can be an unbearable source of anxiety and indecision.

Here's an easy way to work out what you need to do.

Imagine you suddenly received millions in a windfall. 

So much money that it made financial considerations in your circumstances irrelevant to the outcome of your potential separation.

Set your own bar.

For some that will be £5 million,

For others £500 million.  

What would you do with the money?

Worst thing about getting divorced?

19 Jul

What is the worst thing about getting divorced?

Think about it.

Is it the money?

The change in lifestyle?

The loss of the family home?

Is it losing your ex-partner...

Even if the relationship was not working?

Is it the impact on your children?

Is it the sheer loneliness?

Is it the loss of your role in society...

7 Warning Signs to Watch For

When it comes to cheating in relationships, many people assume it’s about falling for someone new.

But often, the threat comes from the past...

particularly an ex.

Reconnecting with an ex can be a slippery slope, and many emotional affairs or full-blown infidelities start exactly there.

If you’ve been feeling like something’s “off” in your relationship...

even if you can’t quite put your finger on it...

you’re not alone.

Trusting your gut is important, especially when your intuition is picking up on subtle shifts in behavior.

Below are seven red flags that may indicate your partner is slipping back into contact with their ex.

While not every sign confirms infidelity, consistent patterns deserve your attention.