Are you on the rebound?
Why Rebounds Can Seem Like a Lifeline
It might not be as bad as you think.
There’s an American study from Brumbaugh & Fraley (2015, Journal of Social and Personal Relationships) that found rebound relationships can actually help people recover from a breakup faster.
A new connection can boost self-esteem, reduce longing for the ex, and distract from pain.
That’s the theory.
The True Cost of Divorce
How Much Will Your Divorce Really Cost?
When clients come to me after separation, they’re usually focused on one thing: the legal bill. They worry about solicitor’s fees, court costs, and what it’s going to take to get the divorce through. But the real cost of divorce isn’t on the invoice. It’s in the years of your life you won’t get back.
People often overlook are the other, less visible costs: the emotional toll, the time drain, and the sheer energy it takes.
Settle or fight? How to decide what’s right in divorce
Settle or Fight?
When you divorce, you’ve got two choices when it comes to the finances:
Reach an agreement.
Fight it out.
In England and Wales, around 80% of divorcing couples reach an agreement without going to court. But how they do it varies a lot.
How People Settle
WHY DO PEOPLE GET DIVORCED?
Why Do People Get Divorced?
People often ask why marriages end.
The honest answer?
One of them goes off the other.
It’s not always dramatic. Sometimes it’s slow.
But it usually comes down to this: the feeling fades.
We don’t like to admit that.
We prefer complex explanations“We grew apart,” “Life got in the way,” “We had different goals.”
But really, it’s often just that you stop liking them. At least not the way you used to.
DO YOU WANT TO GET DIVORCED?
People spend years ruminating over this question:
Should I stay or should I go now?
How profound was that 80s hit?
Not good enough to stay?
Not bad enough to leave?
Feeling discontented?
Dissatisfied?
Maybe even resentful?
What to do?
This can be an unbearable source of anxiety and indecision.
Here's an easy way to work out what you need to do.
Imagine you suddenly received millions in a windfall.
So much money that it made financial considerations in your circumstances irrelevant to the outcome of your potential separation.
Set your own bar.
For some that will be £5 million,
For others £500 million.
What would you do with the money?
Worst thing about getting divorced?
Worst thing about getting divorced?
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What is the worst thing about getting divorced?
Think about it.
Is it the money?
The change in lifestyle?
The loss of the family home?
Is it losing your ex-partner...
Even if the relationship was not working?
Is it the impact on your children?
Is it the sheer loneliness?
Is it the loss of your role in society...
Is he slipping back into contact with his ex?
7 Warning Signs to Watch For
When it comes to cheating in relationships, many people assume it’s about falling for someone new.
But often, the threat comes from the past...
particularly an ex.
Reconnecting with an ex can be a slippery slope, and many emotional affairs or full-blown infidelities start exactly there.
If you’ve been feeling like something’s “off” in your relationship...
even if you can’t quite put your finger on it...
you’re not alone.
Trusting your gut is important, especially when your intuition is picking up on subtle shifts in behavior.
Below are seven red flags that may indicate your partner is slipping back into contact with their ex.
While not every sign confirms infidelity, consistent patterns deserve your attention.
How your spending is scrutinised During Divorce
If your Divorce ends up in Court...
Everything you buy will be under the spotlight.
Plus everything you have bought for the last 12 months.
Are there things you don't want your ex...
or his/her legal team to know about?
Some people find this extremely irritating...
Nobody cares about your divorce
One of the things that it's important to come to terms with when you're going through a separation is that nobody else really cares.
People can show interest in what's going on.
Even gossip or be nosy.
It's like when you you first get married.
People are intrusive and ask when you are going to start a family.
When you divorce people ask for the details.
Why you should get divorced
One of the things that it's important to come to terms with when you're going through a separation is that nobody else really cares.
People can show interest in what's going on.
Even gossip or be nosy.
It's like when you you first get married.
People are intrusive and ask when you are going to start a family.
When you divorce people ask for the details.
Why do so many people get divorced?
Why do so many people get divorced?
In my experience, both professionally and personally, it is because somebody wasn’t authentic.
So… the person that you married is not the person that you end up being married to now.
They put on an act.
They pretended to be someone they were not.
In the extreme this could be gold diggers or narcissists, or…
People who are so attracted to you that they pretend to be what they think you want…