WHY DO PEOPLE GET DIVORCED?
Why Do People Get Divorced?
People often ask why marriages end.
The honest answer?
One of them goes off the other.
It’s not always dramatic. Sometimes it’s slow.
But it usually comes down to this: the feeling fades.
We don’t like to admit that.
We prefer complex explanations“We grew apart,” “Life got in the way,” “We had different goals.”
But really, it’s often just that you stop liking them. At least not the way you used to.
What Changes?
It usually starts well.
You meet someone and think they’re fantastic.
Funny. Kind. Attractive.
They seem to really get you.
Then time passes, and you begin to notice things.
Maybe they aren’t quite so funny.
Maybe they’re always right.
Or maybe you just didn’t look closely at first.
Maybe they weren’t entirely honest about who they are.
Some people pretend to be someone they’re not, especially early on.
But even when there’s no deception, time tends to strip away the charm.
What once felt exciting starts to feel ordinary.
Then irritating.
Then unbearable.
And sometimes it’s not even that deep.
You Might Just Get Bored
Sometimes it’s not even about red flags. You simply get bored.
I see this in relationships, but I also notice it in everyday things.
Take Simon Sinek. He’s a popular business speaker.
I watched a few of his TikToks…
he seemed smart and insightful.
But by the eighth one, I found him irritating.
What once sounded fresh started to grate.
I unfollowed him.
Relationships can feel the same.
You start off thinking someone is amazing, and then, over time, your perspective shifts.
You can fall out of love with someone slowly, without a row, without infidelity, without betrayal.
Just a growing sense of “This isn’t working.”
You go from “They’re amazing” to “I can’t stand them.”
Slowly, quietly, things shift.
Of course, sometimes there’s more to it…
abuse, infidelity, control, neglect.
And those things do real damage.
But often, it’s simpler than that: you just don’t like each other anymore.
And that’s enough.
It Doesn’t Mean the Marriage Was a Mistake
It doesn’t have to be anyone’s fault.
There may be no betrayal, no abuse, no neglect.
Just a quiet realisation that it’s not working anymore.
That doesn’t make the marriage worthless.
It just means it ran its course.
It’s not a failure. It doesn’t mean your marriage was pointless.
It means you’re human. Feelings change.
People change.
And staying in a relationship where one of you has checked out…
that does more harm than good.
If you’re in that place now, you’re not alone.
And you don’t have to pretend things are fine when they’re not.
Divorce isn’t the end of the world.
It’s just the end of a chapter.
When You’re Ready for the Next Step
If you’re at that point…
if the feeling’s gone and you’re wondering what to do next…
don’t stay stuck.
Divorce isn’t failure.
It’s a decision.
And you’re allowed to make it.
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