Questions to ask before Marriage
post written by a retired family law solicitor advocate
I originally wrote this post on 21 December 2006.
The amazing thing about humans is that we keep making the same mistakes.
Almost 20 years later nothing has changed.
There are still users out there.
And people are still taken advantage of.
What has changed however is the way people meet.
Online dating has taken over.
Sadly, this has led to a lot of disappointment.
Many people now deride relationships online .
The talk reduces relationships to transactional and is termed "the sexual market place".
This seems to result in only chads scoring and women seeking triple sixes...
For the uninitiated... this is a man who is at least 6 foot tall, has a 6 pack and earns a 6 figure salary.
Online dating has provided a fantastic hunting ground for these "chads" who schmooze women beneath them on the sexual market scale. Then...
to borrow a descriptive but unpleasant phrase... "pump and dump".
These women are left convinced they deserve to marry such a character.
Housing statistics suggest lots of people are choosing to remain single, men who are not in the top ten percent are rejecting dating altogether, and women are choosing cats for companionship.
For those who are still full of hope... please read on.
I love Elvis Presley's song:
Fools rush in where wise men fear to tread.
Enjoy!
https://divorcesolicitor.blogspot.com/2006/12/questions-to-ask-before-marriage.html
The New York Times
Have produced an eminently sensible list of questions to ask your future spouse.
Here's mine:
IF YOU ARE UGLY AND RICH
Are you marrying me for my money?
IF YOU ARE POOR AND GORGEOUS
Are you marrying me for my looks?
IF YOU ARE A MAN AND THE WOMAN YOU HAVE BEEN DATING FOR 2 YEARS WEARS A DIFFERENT OUTFIT EACH TIME YOU SEE HER?
How much money do you spend on clothes?
IF YOU ARE A WOMAN AND THE MAN YOU HAVE BEEN DATING FOR 2 YEARS ALWAYS WEARS THE SAME JACKET
How often do you wash?
IF YOU ARE PAUL McCARTNEY
Are you marrying me for my fame and fortune?
IF THE ANSWER IS NO
Do you mind if we use a lie detector?
IF YOU ARE A MIDDLE AGED ENGLISH WOMAN MARRYING A TURKISH WAITER
Are you marrying me to try and move to England?
IF YOU ARE MARRYING ZARA PHILLIPS OR ANY OTHER ANIMAL LOVER
If your horse and I were both ill, which one would you sit up all night with?
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