No 1 reason men cheat

First: Not All Men Cheat

Let’s be clear.

Cheating is a choice.

Some men...

handsome,

successful,

financially secure...

are surrounded by temptation but choose loyalty.

It’s a moral decision...

not a biological inevitability.

I’ve advised women divorcing men with model looks and millionaire bank balances who never strayed.

Equally, I’ve acted for women whose husbands had little to offer but still couldn’t stay faithful.

Infidelity isn’t about opportunity alone.

It’s about what the man values...

and what he’s willing to risk.

So Why Do Men Cheat?

The number one reason men cheat is opportunity.

If he’s on a desert island, he won’t cheat.

If he’s surrounded by attractive, interested women every day...

at work,

at the gym,

on social media...

the temptation is constant.

What men often lack isn’t love or sex at home.

It’s boundaries.

They drift.

One DM,

one “innocent” drink,

one moment of boredom...

and they’re in.

What Smart Wives Do

I know three women, each married to what most would call a high-risk man...

rich, attractive, successful.

Each woman has her own strategy.

1. Make him unappealing
It sounds shocking, but one wife makes sure her husband is badly dressed, poorly groomed, and disorganised in public.

“I know women want him,” she says, “so I make sure he looks a mess.”

Cruel? Maybe.

Effective? Yes.

2. Control the work environment
The second wife runs her husband’s diary and insists all his staff are either men or women “who couldn’t turn a head in a blackout.”

No ambiguity.

No compromise.

The third

3. Merge lives completely

Full integration.

Shared Apple ID.

Shared WhatsApp.

One email account.

Nothing private, no secrets.

She’s not policing...

she’s preventing.

“If a woman wants him,” she says, “she has to go through me.”

Legal Insight: Does Cheating Matter in Divorce?

In England and Wales, adultery is one of the five facts that can be used to establish that a marriage has broken down irretrievably, under section 1(2)(a) of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973.

But since no-fault divorce came into force in April 2022, you no longer need to prove adultery to divorce. The courts also don't punish adultery in financial settlements.

That said, cheating often leads to reckless spending, emotional instability, or the hiding of assets...

those behaviours can affect the financial outcome.

So while cheating doesn’t get you “more money,” it might become relevant if it links to conduct affecting the marital pot.

Final Thoughts

Men cheat because they can.

Women stay faithful because they care.But if you’re lucky enough to be married to a man every woman wants...

don’t get complacent.

Marriage takes strategy as much as love.

Set boundaries.

Be smart.

And if you suspect something's off, act early.

Don't wait until it becomes part of your Form E.

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