Stress and Separation
Post written by a retired family law solicitor advocate.
I wrote a post on 11 December 2006, about stress in relationship breakdown.
I separated worries and concerns into those you can do something about...
Your own life issues...
And those you can't...
Such as...
The ozone layer is broken.
Since that time research has advanced to reveal that we can think our way into...
And think our way out of...
Stress.
A bit like the old Henry Ford quote...
Whether you think you can, or you think you can't...
You're right.
Stress is contagious
Stress produces stress.
Or...
What you think about is what you get.
If you worry continuously that things are going to go wrong...
It affects your mental health...
You become snappy, unhappy, dull, pessimistic.
It affects your physical health...
Your sleep is worsened, you gain belly fat and your immune system worsens.
Stress is shown to result in heart attacks.
Stress creates more stress, in yourself and those around you.
How to reduce stress?
Choose your tribe wisely.
Other people can make you more stressed...
You know who they are...
And if you don't ...
You're the stress creator in your circle.
Look after yourself...
Eat well.
Guard your mind...
From your own stressful thoughts and negative external influences.
Move your body.
Here's the original post.
I hope it helps!
https://divorcesolicitor.blogspot.com/2006/12/ozone-layer-is-broken.html
Going through separation and divorce is a time of huge stress. Anxiety levels can soar and people become paralysed with fear of the future.
A way of dealing with these anxieties is to separate them into micro and macro worries.
Macro worries
These concern our world such as global warming, increasing crime rates, lack of N.H.S. dentists, the IRAQ war etc. When a person is anxious, such matters which are outside their control can affect them more deeply. You can read about the death of a teenager in a car accident and burst into tears. Recognise that you are emotionally vulnerable and avoid watching the news etc.
Micro worries
These are your own concerns. Credit card bills, noisy neighbours. work commitments, childcare issues and the overload - your divorce!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Try to separate your concerns into those you can solve and those that are out of your hands. Worrying about what type of order a judge may make is simply that, worry. There are certain administrative things you are required to provide in your divorce, try to deal with these boring tasks as soon as possible. Then attempt the impossible -forget about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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