f you can’t stop fighting, you need to stop pretending this is normal.

Every couple argues.

But constant fighting is different.

That is not communication.

That is two people living in a war zone.

And if there are children in the house, they are living in it too.

So the first question is not:

“Should I get divorced?”

The first question is:

“Is this relationship still capable of repair?”

Because divorce is not the only option.

But doing nothing is also a decision.

And often, it is the worst one.

Post written by a retired family law solicitor advocate.

There is a familiar pattern in many unhealthy relationships.

An incident.

An apology.

A gesture.

Then a return to normal, until the next incident.

Flowers often arrive at the apology stage.

They are presented as evidence of remorse,

change,

insight.

A physical symbol meant to close the chapter and move things on.

For some people, they work.

Or rather, they work just enough to keep things going.

But flowers are not enough.

Many clients describe the same cycle.

Hurtful behaviour followed by gifts.

Angry words followed by affection.

Control followed by charm.

Each time, the gift is framed as proof that it will not happen again.

What matters is not the apology.